Have you ever thought “Am I a good dad?” What am I doing right? What am I doing wrong? I know that I have and there are a lot times that I don’t feel that I am doing anything right when it comes to being father.
As a dad with three young kids, there are a lot of times as a father that I feel I could be doing things a lot better than I am. I will come home from work and still be thinking about work instead of being “present” with my kids. I might also be worrying about things I need to get done around the house instead spending time with them.
With that being said, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Like anything else you want to improve in your life you just have to be intentional about it. If you are wanting to get in better shape, you would create a plan and execute that plan. It isn’t any different to become a better father.
Here are four things you can do daily to work on becoming a better father.
Be present with your children. This sounds obvious but this is a step that a lot of us miss. Instead of watching TV or spending time on your smartphone or computer, focus all of your attention on your kids. Whatever you are doing on those devices are not as important as your kids.
Listen to your kids with all of your attention. This goes hand in hand with the previous point about being present. When your kids are talking, “listen” to everything they are saying. How many times have your kids been talking and they say did you hear me and you have no idea what they said. I know that I have been there.
Say I love you, a lot. This is something that is very important for your kids to hear and you can’t say it enough. Just be intentional about it.
Make family time. Take time out of your busy work schedule and spend time with your family. This is very important for the kids, your spouse, and yourself. This will actually help your work performance because it will leave you feeling rejuvenated.
As a father with three kids, I definitely do not have it all figured out, but I love the process of becoming a better person and father. Do not feel like you are alone in this because there are a lot guys that feel the same way, but might not be comfortable talking about it.
Question: How do you focus on being a better father? What things do you try to do on a daily basis to improve in this area? You can leave a comment by clicking here.